Tumultuous Relationships

• uncouth
• classless
• bitter
• jealous
• resentful
• angry 
• unattractive

• dishonest: i read your texts for over a year and I've decided that you have unresolved feelings for this man. you wanted to get back together for the "family". Don't lie and say that you were 'just playing' in your texts. i read his responses as well and they were NOT in participation and did not return the sentiment.  If I wouldn't have seen the text stating, "Confession: I still love you" with my own eyes --- you would've tried to deny that too!

• delusional: what I look like taking relationship advice from someone who's had a few FAILED MARRIAGES, a RECENT MUGSHOT for fighting her man, a poor relationship with the father of her children, and who is angry a majority of the time? I'm married, educated, have good credit, a homeowner, gainfully employed, a happy home, and have a fairly good relationship with the father of my eldest child. So yes, I'm still winning- facebook stalker.

• confused: do you really feel vindicated by him calling you to apologize after our conversation? I would be pissed if I were you- that he chose the route of confronting you for being inappropriate in front of his wife in the first place. You were clearly the disadvantaged that day. But the fact that you didn't realize this-- you're an idiot.

It doesn't bother me that you have a distorted point of view about your ex and his intentions in dealing with you as the mother of his kids. I have everything I want. What hurts me as a human being is how I watched him claim your eldest son as his own. Take him into our home and make sure he had shoes, clothes, haircuts, and more importantly, peace of mind. I'm sure somewhere in your denial, you hold a place for him in your heart too. I've read all of your texts and I know.



It's also funny that you mentioned that you were in a situation similar to this because I TOO was in a situation like this in the past, but I was YOU. I was so aggressively interacting with the girlfriend of the man that I dated, trying to convince the woman that I had her man. "I was with him." "We had a physical relationship," etc. I told her every detail about the happenings of myself and this man who was dating myself as well as her at the time. I was the aggressor, I was jealous, and I told her way too much. After all my WRATH and at the end of the day, even after telling her the details of my relationship with this man, I WAS SICK. I knew that I, in fact was being lied to, as I saw pictures of this man with his long time girlfriend online. Even after all that I had told her and ALL THAT HE HAD TOLD ME! Isn't that what your argument was. "What he told you." You see, you have to pay less attention to what a man says and more attention to what he does. His actions. You might not have been "attracted" to my husband at the time of your inappropriate advances, but you for damn sure wanted to get your family back together. And you failed.






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 I'm so amused at the difference between your photo above and the photos you sent to a married man (whom you claim to be over) with 90's-style colored contacts, overdone weave & makeup. 




You let your daughter read the texts of you telling your married ex that you, "still love him" and you offering him to "come back home" and him telling you to "move on" WHY? So she will grow up to be as fucked up as you? She barely respects you.

 
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 "he thinks you're ratchet." 

The Jealous, Bitter Ex: A Woman Scorned

As old as you are, you should know to pay less attention to what men say and more attention to what they do. He told you whatever you needed to hear to tame the animal, so to speak. He told me you were, "jealous & miserable".  And your behavior doesn't disprove that accusation at all. 

So, you can call me "insecure" all day long, call me whatever you need to call me to make yourself feel better, but the next time you even speak inappropriately to my husband my response is not going to be verbal. You put yourself in a position to be labeled as the jealous, bitter ex because you're disrespectful. You use 4 page letters to verbalize that you no longer have feelings for my husband but your behaviors are the opposite. My husband has told me that you tried to reconcile with him multiple times, as it would be a, "testament" to your love. Now you're online denying it. How do you look now? You're pushing 40 spending company time online communicating with the wife of your ex trying to convince her that you don't care. You haven't even convinced yourself yet as evident by your hateful blog rant. You try to sound educated online because you want to impress me but you don't even have a decent income. Save the words because you've already embarrassed yourself by acting like an animal throughout this whole process. But I'm pleased at listening to you go on and on about my husband in terms of your history with him chronologically. I now understand why you've behaved the way you have all this time. I know my husband is a good man and you know it too! As much as you'd LIKE to know, you have no clue about what goes on in his home. Bless your heart. You knew the old D. I have the good dad, the provider, good husband, etc. And that's why you're pissed. Last year, you wanted my husband to know that you, "still loved him." This year, you're obsessed with his legal status - even though you say you're mad about child support issues, Will you let me know which issue it is so that we can both be on the same page?

 ....You know- a wife like me has ALREADY reviewed the phone records, and not because of some type of "insecurity," but because I'm curious about disrespectful bitches like you. After viewing the phone records, it was a pleasant surprise to know that the length of conversations you had with my husband didn't really exceed my expectations of what I deem appropriate. You hold that as a badge of honor, like I'm supposed to be curious about it yet you want me to believe that you're not jealous. It seems to me that your most recent relationship might still be intact if you would have applied some "lengthy conversation" to it. Since it means so much to YOU. One thing that I DID notice was that when my husband checked you for being inappropriate, you text him well over 100 times with not one response from him. I could have measured the amount of enraged texts that you sent -on paper in inches.... This isn't the behavior of someone who is over my husband. You're so proud to have had my husband on the phone back then, but these days you can't even get that nigga on the phone!  How does it feel to have to chase a dude down that you have two kids with and force him to have communication with you? I call my son's father and he actually ANSWERS the phone and has communication with me regarding his son, you know why? Because I know how to have respect for him and his. 

I can teach you a thing or two about getting what YOU want but that wouldn't be in my best interest. For you to comment on us moving to NY with ZERO knowledge of anything, I was the catalyst in moving to NY for career purposes -dummy. Unlike you, who uproots her children EVERY year- new schools. that our relationship has thrived. You're looking through my son's facebook pictures to get a glance in, but you're saying that you "don't care". Your behaviors and your words are CONTRADICTORY, my dear.

My son sees his mother in a loving, nonviolent relationship at home. (You fight with your hands). I also allow him to visit his father every summer, which gives me a break and a chance to travel with my husband in the summers. (You discourage your own children from calling and seeing their father). No matter who my son's father is dating, I let him have an organic relationship with him. His father doesn't have a lot of money. I don't beat him to the ground for MONEY THAT HE DOES NOT HAVE. If he can't pay the amount that I'd like, it's because he doesn't have the income, period. The financial dynamic doesn't CHANGE the relationship he has with his son. This is important for little black men all around the world :0) My son is well-adjusted, has an unconditional relationship with his father, unobstructed by whatever I may feel about his father's girlfriend. He knows his father, spends loads of time with him, and respects him. And I allow for that no matter what disagreements his father and I may have. I KEEP THE TWO SEPARATE and I would NEVER bash his father in front of him <--- Golden rule Ms. Bowman or Johnson or whatever the hell your name is this year. It's because I'm happy in MY life. He has two fathers and 3 sets of grandparents, all living and he has a relationship with every single one of them. God is good. 

Truths: My husband has ALWAYS apologized for your behavior and he said that you were, "miserable." You don't understand that he told you whatever you needed to hear, to "calm you down". I automatically assumed that his children were going to participate in the wedding. I was told that it was mutually decided upon by both parents that they not attend. My family were looking side-eyed like, "what?". I even assigned Marc as a groomsmen until he left the house "abruptly". Also, If hubby somehow came upon a lump sum of money, the first place it would go is towards his children. He is unselfish. Lastly, I don't claim to perfect! Sure, I have problems too. I just know how to treat people and their relationships with RESPECT. And I demand respect from people in return and that does not exclude YOU. Give some! You may one day get it back!
 

I pray that you set better examples for your children. I pray that you resolve your deep-seeded issues so that one day your children may have a healthy relationship with their father, who loves them dearly. I pray that you find your true nature so that you no longer have to put on a disguise. I pray that you see yourself as you truly are and realize why you didn't beat Marc's father into the ground for child support like you do with Noah's father. It's simply because you're feeling some type of way about him
having a new family. And you're pissed that he didn't accept your attempts of reconciliation. I also pray that you will settle your account with rent-a-center in Ga so that they will stop calling my husband's phone to collect on your rented furniture.